Apr 24, 2011

How to Really Love Your Adult Child by Ross Campbell and Gary Chapman

More than 10 years after Parenting Your Adult Child was published, much has changed - including young adults themselves, as well as their parents. Economic upheavals, challenges to traditional values and beliefs, the phenomenon of over-involved "helicopter parenting" - all make relating to grown children more difficult than ever. Yet at the same time, being a parent of an adult child can bring great rewards. This revised and updated version of Dr. Gary Chapman's and Dr. Ross Campbell's message will help today's parents explore how to really love their adult child in today's changing world. The book includes brief sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves with their own stories.


Ross Campbell, M.D is the author of the bestselling book How to Really Love Your Child, which has sold more than one million copies. An associate professor of pediatrics and psychiatry at the University of Tennessee College of Medicine, Ross conducts seminars on parent-child relationships. His other titles include The Five Love Languages of Children, Parenting Your Adult Child, How to Really Love Your Teenager, Kids in Danger, and Getting a Clue in a Clueless World.

Gary Chapman is the author of the New York Times bestselling The Five Love Languages book and series. With more than 35 years of pastoring and marriage counseling experience, he travels the world presenting seminars to couples who want to improve their marriage relationship. He is host of the weekly radio program Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, which airs on more than 250 stations. For information, visit FiveLoveLanguages.com.


We love our children and are proud of their accomplishments. But how would we react if they moved back into the family home as adults, maybe even with grandchildren as part of the package? We love them dearly, but are we prepared to have them in our home 24/7?

Here is an example from the book on page 61: "Rose is typical of boomerang children - they return home the worse for wear. Their experience in the adult world has depleted their emotional energy, and their psychological and physical problems motivate them to retreat from life rather than pursue a vision. Parents who open their doors to these tired children are often tired themselves. They don't have the skills to cope with their young adult children, and in an attempt to do so, they often become frustrated and depressed." 

When an adult child moves back home, the daily routine and so much more is drastically changed.  The parents, no matter what their age, will need the skills and resources to help their adult children work through their problems, often of a crisis nature.

One of my favourite chapters is titled "Meeting Your Own Needs". This chapter is critical for the older parent to ensure that their own reserve tanks are not depleted.

Whether a child is dealing with a marriage break-up, alcohol or drug abuse, depression, domestic violence, financial problems, or a plethora of other reasons, we are still the parents.

This book is an invaluable resource! There are no guarantees in life, and things can change in any family situation with no warning. This great book will assist families of all ages in strengthening and maintaining healthy relationships.

Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy of this book courtesy of Moody Publishers, in exchange for my honest review.

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